Your ceremony is the complete wedding from the I Do's, to the vows, to that first kiss. Your vows are the commitments and promises you make to each other. Both the broader ceremony and your vows
should represent who you are as individuals and a couple. Whether you
want traditional vows in a formal ceremony or something more modern, casual and fun, it is your day and
your choice. Here are some tools to help you create the ceremony of your dreams.
Tie the Knot or Tie the Knot and Pick Your Spot Only
Four Simple Ceremonies and the No Vows Option
couples who prefer a simple wedding with minimal planning we offer Four
Simple Ceremonies. You may choose them and use them unedited for a
quick and thrifty wedding.
Custom Ceremony and Planning Meeting
This is your day and you should have it the way you want it. With as much
assistance from Pastor Dave as you like you can have the unique ceremony
of your dreams. If you choose the "Custom Ceremony and Planning
Meeting" option ($100) then you may use these tools.
the Planning Meeting (or through email and phone conversations, your
choice) we will design your ceremony. Taking parts that you like from
different examples and additions that I provide or from any other
source. We will also talk about the logistics of your event. Who
enters first and where they will stand, how the rings/gifts will be
presented, and generally what happens when. You will feel more secure
that your special day will be your perfect day.
the ceremony or pieces of ceremonies that say what you feel about each
other. Take the Officiant's Address from Ceremony A with the Vows from
the Gender Neutral ceremony on the Four Simple Ceremonies page, and Ring
Exchange from Ceremony N and you are on your way. You can do this on
your own or consulting with Pastor Dave during your in person or Skype
planning meeting, or by phone any time. He will go
through your ceremony with you, letting you hear what your choices will
sound like, and give suggestions based on his experience with other
couples and decades of public speaking. Whether you want Traditional,
Modern, Spiritual, or New Age, here are the tools you need.
Ceremony Creation Guide
sure what happens when in a wedding ceremony? How long should your
ceremony last? Here is a Ceremony Creation Guide that helps you put the
pieces you choose in the order you want. Washington State only
requires that each person says they want to marry the other, and your
officiant say that you are married (in front of two witnesses).
Everything else is completely optional and up to you. Want to have the
ring exchange first or skip it all together? It is all up to you.
authors and poets are recognized because they can move you and reveal
deep feelings with simple words. Including a reading in your ceremony
can add a touch of grace or fun. While you are not limited to these
selections they do provide a wide range is styles and messages. Please
note, if you are a non-religious couple but would like to include a
secular reading from a religious source, often for the comfort of
friends and relatives, you will find several here.
are the heart of most ceremonies. They are a statement of your
feelings for your partner, and the promises you pledge to them. While
most of the example ceremonies you will find here have wonderful vows,
including the traditional "For Better or Worse, Richer or Poorer, in
Sickness or in Health", you may wish to speak directly to each other
from your heart. Whether you want to tell your partner why you love
them, how your love came to be, or what you believe the future will
hold, you may want to write your own. Here is a place where you can get
word just aren't enough. Couples can be endlessly inventive in
demonstrating their love to each other. We have provided some ideas for
non-traditional suggestions to enhance and expand your ceremony.
Handfasting, Sand Ceremony, Unity Candles and more can be easily made a
part of your ceremony.
Make your story a part of the ceremony. Your family and friends want to know
what makes your relationship special. Pastor Dave has a real gift
listening to you tell your story, hearing why you are unique, and
communicating that to your family and friends. This optional service
($100) can be used with the Four Simple Ceremonies or with a Custom
Ceremony. You will find written and video examples if you click on the
optional service ($100) gives you peace of mind. Whether you have a
wedding planner to run your rehearsal, or want Pastor Dave to provide
you with suggestions, information and choices, a rehearsal is a must for
larger wedding parties. Whether you choose this option or not, you may
find this guide will help you decide if you want or need a rehearsal
and what to expect during your rehearsal.