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Assorted Sample Ceremonies


Please feel free to cut, paste, mix, and match.  Don't forget to look at the Four Simple Ceremonies, Readings, and Special Additions for more inspiration.

Note - Wedding ceremonies proceed at a rate of about 100 words per minute.  So a 1,000 word ceremony lasts about 10 minutes for the speaking portion.  If you add a processional and recessional it will be about a 15 minute event.


All ceremonies will normally begin with this (optional) announcement:


"Good afternoon everyone.  The ceremony will begin shortly.  I am Pastor Dave Ptasnik of the Humanist Assembly and will be officiating today.  Will everyone please be seated and silence their cell phones.

[Optional]
We also ask that you enjoy and be present for this glorious occasion and refrain from taking photos and videos or using your social media accounts during the ceremony.   Thank you!

Please rise! [Bride enters] Please be seated!"


You may also add a Tie the Knot ritual to any ceremony.  After the ceremony you will be able to keep the romantically colored Chord that we provide (yes, that's the correct spelling for this kind of thing) with your own Love Knot!  You have but to ask.  If you prefer a ribbon or some other rope/string you are welcome to provide it.


"Since the earliest of days in cultures across the earth, the tying of knots has been a beautiful symbol of the joining of two hearts as one. It represents the unbreakable linking of two lives, two destinies and two families. Let us celebrate as (Partner1) and (Partner2) complete this ancient rite.
[Couple ties the knot.]
And so you are joined!"


Ceremony A


Opening Words


Welcome friends, families, and honored guests.  We are here to celebrate love.  Love organizes our large and sometimes unpredictable world.  It is that which enshrines and ennobles our human experience.  It is the basis for the peace of family, and the peace of the peoples of the earth.  The greatest gift bestowed upon humans is the gift of love freely given between two persons.

Officiant's Address


In marriage, two people turn to each other in search of a greater fulfillment than either can achieve alone.  Marriage is a bold step, taken together, into an unknown future.   It is risking who we are for the sake of who we can be.  Only in giving of ourselves fully, and sharing our lives with another, can the mysterious process of growth take place.  Only in loyalty and devotion bestowed upon another can that which is eternal in life emerge and be known.  Two among us, who have stood apart, come together now, to declare their love and to be united in marriage. 

The words we say today have no magic or prophetic powers.  The power of the wedding vows is merely a reflection of a reality that already exists in the hearts and minds of these two people.  _____________ and ___________, nothing I can say, or nothing you can say to each other, will ensure a long and happy, satisfying and committed marriage.  Only your love for one another, and your integrity to make your commitment real can do that.  I humbly offer the words of Author Wilferd A. Peterson in "The Art of Marriage", who I believe has captured in words, the essence of that commitment.  I hope you will keep his words upon your heart, and refer to them again. 

The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say, "I love you" at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other,
not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation,
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo
or the wife to have the wings of an angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.

It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere
in which each can grow.

It is finding room for the things of the Spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which
the independence is equal, dependence is mutual,
and the obligation is reciprocal.

It is not only marrying the right partner,
it is BEING the right partner.
This is "The Art of Marriage".

(Optional) Parent and Community Statement of Support

Since the dawn of man, people have been united in marriage in all lands, all cultures, and all religions.  In marriages everywhere, this is a time for two individuals to leave the families that raised them, to begin a new family.  At this time, we ask the parents of the Bride and Groom to come forth to stand in support of this marriage.

Do you, _________________ and ____________________, and _____________________ and ____________________, who have lovingly raised and nurtured these two individuals, offer your support for their marriage, promising to love them, guide them, understand them, and encourage them in their solemn endeavor, in the years ahead?  If you agree, please say, "We do".  (Parent's respond.)

And to the witnesses and honored guests here today, I ask the same question.   Do you offer your support for their marriage, promising to stand with them, guide them, understand them, and encourage them in their solemn endeavor, in the years ahead?  If you agree, please say, "We do".

Vows
Please join hands, and in so doing, join your hearts. (Couple can repeat after Officiant or read this from a card.)

I, _________________, take you, ______________,
to be my lawfully wedded ___________________,
to be the Mother/Father of my children, and
to be the companion of my days.
We shall bear together

whatever sorrow and adversity

life may lay upon us.
We shall share together

whatever joy and fulfillment

life may hold in store. 
Together in love,
to work and to share,
to grow and to understand,
and to discover a deeper, fuller life. 
I pledge to support you

in your hopes and dreams,

as if they were my own. 
I pledge to care for you,

respect you and honor you,

cherish you, and to love you. 
(Repeat vows for second person.)


Exchange of Rings

Love freely given has no giver and no receiver.  You are each the giver and each the receiver.  The wedding ring is a symbol, in visible form, of the unbroken circle of you love, so that wherever you go, you may always return to your shared life together.  May these rings always call to mind the power of your love. 

As you place this ring on the finger of your beloved, please repeat after me, 

"I give you this ring,

to wear upon your hand,

as a symbol

of my endless commitment

and love for you."
(Repeat for the second person.) 

Pronouncement

May the glory which rests upon all who love, nourish you and keep you, filling you with happiness and a gracious spirit.  Despite all changes of fortune and time, may that which is noble and lovely and true remain abundantly in your hearts, giving you strength for all that lies ahead.


____________________ and _________________, in the presence of your family and friends who have joined you to share this moment of joy in your lives, you have declared your deep love and affection for each other.  You have stated your wish to live together, always open to a deeper, richer friendship and partnership.  Your have formed your own union, based on respect and honor. Therefore, it is my joyful responsibility to officially acknowledge your union as "Husband and Wife".  You may now seal your marriage with a kiss.

Introduction of Bride and Groom

Ladies and Gentlemen, it is my privilege to present to you for the very first time, Mr. and Mrs.__________ and _________  ________________________ !



Ceremony B


Gathering Words

Welcome.  We are here on this glorious day to celebrate the love that _____ and _____ have for each other, and to recognize and witness their decision to journey forward together in their lives as marriage partners.
We gather to support them as they embark upon the voyage of discovery as husband and wife.  Let us also be there for them throughout their marriage.

Declaration of Support

(Officiant speaks to those gathered): Honored guests, you have been invited her today to represent the families, friends and traditions that have brought ______ and _______ to this point in their lives.   ______ and ________ have asked you to join them out of their love and respect for you.  Please affirm your support for their marriage by responding, "Yes, I do" to the following questions.

As part of the community that surrounds _______ and _______, do you offer your love and support to strengthen their marriage and stand with this family created by their union?

Guests: Yes, we do.

Declaration of Intent


The covenant of marriage can only be entered into by those persons who are legally and spiritually free to offer their hand to another.   _____________ and _______________, is it your intention to marry your Beloved on this day?

(Both partners answer, 'Yes". )


Vows

Please join your hands, and in so doing, join your hearts.  Repeat after me:
Groom:
_________, I promise to love you, to cherish you, and to respect you always.  I promise to participate fully in our marriage relationship.  I will give completely of my mind, body, heart and soul.  I promise to make your plans and dreams as important to me as my own.  I promise to do my share so that our lives together can be healthy, happy, and abundantly satisfying.  I promise to lovingly fulfill these vows each and every day for all of my days. 

Bride:
_________, I promise to love you, to cherish you, and to respect you always.  I promise to participate fully in our  marriage relationship.  I will give completely of my mind, body, heart and soul.  I promise to make your plans and dreams as important to me as my own.  I promise to do my share so that our lives together can be healthy, happy, and abundantly satisfying.  I promise to lovingly fulfill these vows each and every day for all of my days. 

Ring Exchange

Officiant:  Do you have the rings?

 ________, please place the ring on _________'s finger and repeat after me
__________, this ring is a symbol

of the strength and beauty

of our love. 

May it belong to your hand

as my heart belongs to you,

separate but close,

simple yet miraculous.

Officiant: ________, please place the ring on _______'s hand and repeat after me:
________, this ring is a symbol

of the strength and beauty

of our love. 

May it belong to your hand

as my heart belongs to you,

separate but close,

simple yet miraculous.

Final Statement

Now, because you have chosen one another and pledged to love each other for all the days of your lives, before this loving community of family and friends, it is my honor to pronounce you husband and wife!  ______________, you may kiss you bride!

Introduction of Bride and Groom

Ladies and Gentlemen, it is my privilege to present to you for the very first time, Mr. and Mrs. ___________________________ !


Ceremony C


From  Humanist Celebrant Terri Campfield
at www.nonreligiouswedding.com/

Gathering Words

Good evening, and welcome to the ceremony
that will unite Bride and Groom in marriage.
We gather here today to celebrate their union,
and to honor their commitment to not just gazing at one another,
but to looking outward together in the same direction.
Today Bride and Groom proclaim their love to the world,
and we rejoice with and for them.

In marriage, we give ourselves freely and generously
into the hands of the one we love,
and in doing so, each of us receives
the love and trust of the other as our most precious gift.
But even as that gift is shared by two people who are in love,
it also touches the friends and family members
who support and contribute to the relationship.

All of you are Bride and Groom’s community,
and one of the reasons gathering as a community
is such an important part of a wedding ceremony
is because you are witnessing Leo and Dana
taking a new form as a married couple, and in this form,
they become part of their community in a new way.

Bride and Groom, we are here to celebrate your love
and acknowledge your lifelong commitment to one another,
and also to be reminded that it is love that guides us on our path.
It is in this spirit that you have come here to today
to exchange these vows.

Vows

I Groom take you Bride to be my wife/
I promise above all else/

to live to live in truth with you/
and to communicate/

fully and fearlessly/
I give you my hand and my heart/
as a sanctuary/

of warmth and peace/
and pledge my love and devotion/

faith and honor/
as I join my life to yours.

I Bride take you Groom to be my wife/
I promise above all else/

to live to live in truth with you/
and to communicate/

fully and fearlessly/
I give you my hand and my heart/
as a sanctuary/

of warmth and peace/
and pledge my love and devotion/

faith and honor/
as I join my life to yours.



Rings

For thousands of years lovers have exchanged rings as a token of their vows.
These simple gold bands are not of great value in themselves, but are made precious by our wearing of them.  Your rings say that even in your uniqueness you have chosen to be bound together.  Let these rings also be a sign that love has substance as well as soul, a present as well as a past, and that, despite its occasional sorrows, love is a circle of happiness, wonder, and delight.

Groom, take Bride's ring and put it on her finger, and repeat after me:

Just as this circle/

is without end/

my love for you is eternal/
Just as it is made/

of indestructible substance/
my commitment to/

you will never fail/
With this ring/

I take you to be/

my trusted confidante/

and partner for life.

Bride, take Groom's ring and put it on her finger, and repeat after me:

Just as this circle/

is without end/

my love for you is eternal/
Just as it is made/

of indestructible substance/
my commitment to/

you will never fail/
With this ring/

I take you to be/

my trusted confidante/

and partner for life.


Pronouncement

Bride and Groom, although I’m officiating here today,
it is not truly in my power to sanctify, legitimize or bless your relationship in any way,
because the two of you have already done that in your hearts.
So, by joining hands right now and looking into each other’s eyes,
let it be known that you are joined, body and soul in this lifetime,
and that this bond is sacred and eternal.
And now that you have stood before me and exchanged these rings and these vows,
and have agreed to be married according to the laws of the state of California,
it gives me gives me great pleasure to pronounce that you are Husband and Wife.


Ceremony D


Shared by Officiant Kayelily Middleton of AWeddingMinister.com

Welcome

Welcome everyone. ________ and ________ thank you for being with them today. We gather here in joy to witness and celebrate an act of deep love.  ________ and ________, in their devotion, respect, and love for each other, wish to unite in the sacred bond of marriage and to dedicate themselves to each other’s happiness and well being as life mates and partners.

Officiant's Address: On Love and Marriage

Marriage is a sacred agreement to love and support each other to the best of our ability and to use the relationship as a means for changing and healing our individual barriers to love. Marriage requires that both people in the relationship work to help each other learn, grow and prosper. Marriage teaches us to be more responsible for what we think and feel, say and do, and the level of awareness and willingness each person brings goes a long way toward making the relationship work. It is about learning to become less self-centered in ways that we could never have seen before. And mostly, it’s about looking at the big picture—realizing that arguments and conflicts pale in comparison to the deep and true love we discover as we move through life and confront its challenges together as husband and wife.

Not only does marriage take patience and understanding, it takes time and work. Each person must be completely honest and willing to open up their private worlds to each other. It requires continuous communication, lest a disconnect or distancing begin, which can be very difficult to undo. Marriage takes the willingness to be wrong a lot of the time even though your ego would insist that you are right, but reason tells you differently. And it takes a willingness to risk the bruising of your own ego in favor of surrender to the greater Self that both partners in the relationship have agreed to discover together.

We need to recognize, as often as we can, how precious and unique our chosen partner is. Within each of us, there is an inherent quality that can be discovered by seeing it in the other person, despite what the other is saying or doing. The sheer pain and frustration from conflicts that arise in a marriage relationship can serve as the perfect motivation for turning inward to accessing the help of our inner connection with each other and find the invisible strength and sanity within the middle of our minds. This inner strength, universal to us all understands our need for healing and can take our misperceptions, our anger, our guilt and frustrations and transform them into sane and healed perceptions of our partner. This way each partner learns to release the past and join in mutual love and respect.

Vows of Support

To the parents of ________ and ________, congratulations on the part you have played in raising a daughter and a son of such serious purpose.  They accept a very mature and meaningful task in taking on this marriage.  On their behalf, and on behalf of all those gathered here, I thank you.  I remind you that it is more than their blood that is joined here; it is yours as well. Although ________ and ________ have embarked on this marriage through personal choice, their marriage will be enriched by the families from which they come.

With this in mind, I ask you, ________'s parents, to take this man, ________, into your hearts, that he might live from this day as your son, for he is dear and beloved to ________ and shall be so to you and your family.  Do you?

________'s parents:  "We do."

And of you, ________'s parents, I ask the same.  I ask that you take this woman, ________, into your hearts, that she might live from this day as your daughter, for she is dear and beloved to ________, and shall be so to you and your family.  Do you?

________'s parents:  "We do."

________, hold this man as a gift.  It is in your love that this man might find a greater understanding of himself.  You are asked to see the good in this man, to accept him for who he is and to strengthen him so that he might realize his full potential. 

________, hold this woman close to you, one to be honored, a treasure of the spirit.  You are asked to grow with her in love, and in so loving this woman, she might discover the vast strength and fullness of purpose that fills you and everyone she touches. 

To the families and friends of ________ and ________, we ask you to nurture this union with your love and understanding.  Help them to keep their hearts open and ever tender, full of forgiveness and compassion, of happiness and light.  Help ________ and ________ see that through the love they’ve discovered in one another, they will no doubt find their way in the world together.

Presentation of the Rings

The wedding ring is a traditional symbol of lasting commitment and enduring love, a universal expression of that which is without beginning and without end.  This ring expresses two other ideals – the ring itself, apprehensible to hand and eye, and the center, less tangible, and yet its essence.  At the center lies love, on which this marriage must put its faith, and from which it draws its sustenance and inspiration.  The center will hold as long as there is love.

Vows and Ring Exchange

________, please say these words as you place this ring on your bride's finger:

"________, I accept you just as you are today. 

I give to you my promise

that from this day forward,

you will not walk alone. 

We will walk forever

side by side,

rich in laughter,

close in friendship.  

Feel deeply loved,

for you are. 

With this ring,

I give you my heart. 

I have no greater gift to give. 

I promise to dream with you,

to work to make our dreams come true. 

I promise to be faithful to you,

and never to allow anything

to build a wall between us. 

I feel so honored

to call you mine.

With this ring,

a symbol of my love for you,

I ask you, will you be my wife?"

________'s response:  "I will."

________, please say these words as you place this ring on your bridegroom's finger:

"________, I accept you just as you are today. 

I give to you my promise

that from this day forward,

you will not walk alone. 

We will walk forever

side by side,

rich in laughter,

close in friendship.  

Feel deeply loved,

for you are. 

With this ring,

I give you my heart. 

I have no greater gift to give. 

I promise to dream with you,

to work to make our dreams come true. 

I promise to be faithful to you,

and never to allow anything

to build a wall between us. 

I feel so honored

to call you mine.

With this ring,

a symbol of my love for you,

I ask you, will you be my

 husband?"

________:  “I will.”

Pronouncement

________ and ________, because you have made these vows professing your love and devotion to one another, it is my privilege and my great pleasure to pronounce you husband and wife.

________, you may kiss your bride.

Benediction and Presentation

May every desire you have for your love be fulfilled, and may you be given the vision with which to clearly behold one another, the listening with which to perceive one another most genuinely, and the endless generosity of spirit with which to nourish one another's soul and sweetly keep the promises you make here today.

"Family and Friends, it is my pleasure to introduce to you Mr. and Mrs.
________ _______"


Ceremony E


Shared by Officiant Minister Lula Carter
of www.ministerlulacarter.com/
                    
Opening Comments

Ladies and Gentlemen, good evening. We are here today to celebrate the joining in matrimony of _________ and __________. They have asked all of you to be present this day and in this beautiful place to witness their vows of union, marriage and love for one another.

Tonight is also about love: the love between the two people before you, the power of love to heal and transform, and the notion that with love, all things are possible.

We would like to begin by acknowledging the bride and groom’s families:________’s parents, ____________________, and ________________ parents, _____________________,. _________________ and _____________ would also like to thank each of you for joining them for this joyous occasion.

This is an especially eventful occasion because it offers ____________ and ____________ each a second chance at happiness. They have each walked miles to be here together, and this wedding is a joy to behold. I think I speak for everyone here when I say we all wish you the happiness that you deserve. We are so glad that you have found one another, and that when life handed you difficulties, it did not make you bitter; it made you better.

Its is fitting that we are in a location that has captured a moment in time through its architecture. One thinks of how art evoke emotion; the powerful words of Pablo Neruda, the melancholy of songs by Robert Johnson, the wonder of Pollock’s drops of paint. The wide range of emotion we experience from art --- exhilaration, euphoric anticipation, wonder, joy and most definitely love --- can be found in this passage by the poet Ana Rosetti, whose words perfectly symbolize the emotion _____________________ share:

This is the enigma, the moving attraction
To know, the irresistible eagerness to throw the anchor
In you
What will be the perplexity of being you.
What, the mystery, the beauty of being you and to know
What, the dream of being you, truly you
With your eyes, to see me
What will be perceived, that I love you
What will be, being you, to hear me say it.
What, then, what you would feel.

____________________ , we are here to remember and rejoice with you and to recount with one another that it is love that guides us on our path, and to celebrate as you begin this journey together.

Ring Exchange

Have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage?

Bride and Groom: “Yes we have.”

For thousands of years lovers have exchanged rings as a token of their vows. Your rings say that even in your uniqueness, you have chosen to be bound together.

Let these rings also be a sign that love has substance as well as soul, a present as well as a past, and that, despite its occasional sorrows, love is a circle of happiness, wonder, and delight.

Ring Vows

__________ , take ____________’s hand, place the ring on her finger, and repeat after me:

_________ : ___________, I take you to be

no other than yourself
loving what I know of you,

trusting what I do not yet know,

with respect for your integrity

and faith in your love for me

through all our years

and in all that life may bring us.

___________, take _____________’s hand, place the ring of his finger, and repeat after me:

_________: ________, I take you to be

no other than yourself
loving what I know of you,

trusting what I do not yet know,

with respect for your integrity

and faith in your love for me

through all our years

and in all that life may bring us.


Hand Ceremony

(Bride's Name), please hold (Groom’s Name) hands palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you. These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and vibrant with love, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.
These are the hands that will work along side yours, as together you build your future, as you laugh and cry, as you share your innermost secrets and dreams.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will comfort you in illness, and hold you when fear or grief engulfs your heart. These are the hands that when wrinkles and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.
These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into his eyes; eyes that filled completely with his overwhelming love and desire for you.

Now
(Groom’s Name), I would like for you to look at your hands right now, really look and them and remember this moment, because I truly hope that you realize that this will be the very last time you will ever have the upper hand! (Laughter …)

(Groom’s Name), please hold (Bride’s Name) hands palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you. These are the hands of your best friend, smooth, young and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she promises to passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness. These are the hands that will massage tension from your neck and back in the evenings after you’ve both had a long hard day.
These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times. These are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick, or console you when you are grieving.
These are the hands that when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch. These are the hands that will give you support as she encourage you to chase down your dreams. Together as a team, everything you wish for can be realized.

Revere these hands that you see before you this day. May they always be held by one another. Give them the strength to hold on during the storms of stress and the dark of disillusionment. Keep them tender and gentle as they nurture each other in their wondrous love.  Use these hands to continue building a relationship rich in caring, and devoted in reaching for your perfection. __________ and ___________ see your four hands as healers, protectors, shelter and guides.

Evocation

__________ and ___________, love set you on a path towards each other and to this moment. From the rich encouragement of your affection, may you be inspired to open your doors to the needs you perceive in the world. In the embrace of mutual respect, may you each complete the unfinished pattern of your true selves. May you strive all the rest of your lives to meet this commitment to each other with the same love and devotion you now posses.

Pronouncement

Now, since you have publicly promised your commitment to each other for all time, I call upon all gathered here to witness that according to the laws of the State of ___________, you are now husband and wife.

Kiss

You may now kiss the bride.

Presentation

Ladies and Gentlemen, it is now my honor and privilege to introduce for the first timeMr. And Mrs. ______________ and _______________ ________________.


Ceremony F


Shared by Reverend Ann Fuller of the Brevard Unitarian-Universalist Church
www.brevardminister.com

WORDS OF WELCOME

We have been invited here on this important day to celebrate the very special love between (Name) and (Name), by joining them in marriage.

(Names), your marriage today is the public and legal joining of your souls that have already been united as one in your hearts. Marriage will allow you a new environment to share your lives together, to face life and the world, hand-in-hand.

Marriage will expand you as individuals, define you as a couple, and deepen your love for one another. To be successful you will need strength, courage, patience and a really good sense of humor.

So let your marriage be a time of waking each morning and falling in love with one another all over again.

OPENING READING
(Couple's choice.)

DEFINITION OF MARRIAGE

One of the most surprising things I have learned about marriage is how much it can serve to strengthen us as individuals. Rather than subsume the partners into the sole definition of a couple, marriage can define who each of you are and who you can become. As a reflection of the grandeur of the universe, a marriage is more than the sum of its parts.

(Names) by coming here today, you have taken the initial step in what will be a wonderful and lasting life together. A union between two people takes effort and neither is a relationship ever complete. It is a process and a journey requiring constant nurturing.

When you don't feel particularly loving, act loving. The tenderness exhibited by kind and loving acts translates almost seamlessly into the compassion necessary for loving feelings to grow.  A good marriage is one that fosters respect, a devoted love, a willingness to make sacrifices as well as support one another by remaining true to your values and convictions.

A strong and healthy marriage is an eternal gift we cultivate within the context of our lives. But bear in mind that eternity is something other than endless time. It is outside of time. It is not the past and not the future, but now. This moment. But as soon as we contemplate the moment it is gone. That is eternity. So if one seeks a relationship of love throughout eternity, it must be a continual process of the here and the now.

Symbolically you have been brought together as one, yet are still two separate people with unique ideas, talents and ways of being. Respect and value those differences and your relationship will flourish. In the words of Kahlil Gibran, “Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together. For the pillars of the temple stand apart and the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow. But let there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of the heavens dance between you.”

(Names) please face your friends and family and join hands as you exchange your marriage vows.

WEDDING VOWS


(Bride), please repeat after me...

(Name), you are my one true love,

my best friend, my soul mate....
You compliment my spirit

You complete me.
Today, before our family,

our friends and the heavens

I pledge my love to you...
And promise to share

the rest of my life with you....

(Groom), please repeat after me...

(Name), you are my one true love,

my best friend, my soul mate....
You compliment my spirit

You complete me.
Today, before our family,

our friends and the heavens

I pledge my love to you...
And promise to share

the rest of my life with you....


(Names), do you promise to...

Trust, respect and celebrate each other?
Grow together by unselfishly encouraging, appreciating, nurturing and supporting each other?
Laugh, play and enjoy the simple pleasures together?
Help each other stay focused on the important things in life and not sweat the small stuff?
Be there and comfort each other always?
Be faithful to each other?
Begin and end each day with the words, "I love you?"

(Bride), please repeat after me

(Name), I will honor these promises

until the end of time....
Because when two hearts believe

their love is forever,

the universe and fate make it so....

(Groom), please repeat after me.

(Name), I will honor these promises

until the end of time....
Because when two hearts believe

their love is forever,

the universe and fate make it so....



Together, please repeat after me.

We swear by peace and love to stand...
heart to heart and hand in hand...
Mark, all present, and hear us now...
Confirming this our solemn vow.

EXCHANGE OF RINGS

Marriage is a state in which two people come together and create a union which is greater than the sum of its parts. It is difficult to express in words the profound relationship that is love. The ring has long been a symbol of the sincerity and permanence of a couple's love for one another and regard for their marriage. As the circle can begin anew at any point, so a good marriage can pick any point to renew itself. These rings are symbols of your eternal love.

As you place the ring on her finger, please repeat after me:

I, (Groom), give you, (Bride), this ring

as an eternal symbol

of my love and commitment to you.

As you place the ring on his finger, please repeat after me:

I, (Bride), give you, (Groom), this ring

as an eternal symbol

of my love and commitment to you.

LIGHTING OF UNITY CANDLE

Fire is believed by many to represent passion and purity. It is also associated with the security of home as the warmth of the hearth and the "home fires." Lise and Johny will light candles representing the light of their individual selves and then come together to light the single candle representing their union. May it be known to all that they are individuals each unique and different and have chosen the common commitment to share their lives, their hearth and their home together.

REFLECTIVE READING


CLOSING WORDS

It is love that brings you here today. It is love that makes yours a glorious union. And it will be love that makes your marriage endure. Love has given you wings, and your journey begins today. This is a journey no two have traveled before, it is unique to you. Wherever life may take you, you will stay by each other's side. I therefore join with everyone gathered today in our wish for your relationship to flourish and grow throughout a long and happy life together.

PROCLAMATION OF MARRIAGE

(Names), you have publicly declared you will live together in marriage. You have made special promises to each other, symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows and the giving and receiving of rings. By the authority vested in me as a Minister in the state of ______ I pronounce you husband and wife.


CLOSING READING
(Couple's choice)

INTRODUCTION OF NEWLYWEDS

With greatest pleasure, I present to you for the first time, Mr. & Mrs. (Names).

Ceremony G


"Short but beautiful"
From the American Association of Wedding Officiant's website
Shared by Rev. Norma Smith of Tampa Bay, Florida

 Welcome to family and friends:

We are gathered here today to celebrate one of life's greatest moments, to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to cherish the words which shall unite ____________ and ____________ in marriage.

Opening:

____________ and ____________, in the days ahead of you, there will be times of difficulty and conflict. When you find yourselves in these situations, I ask you to reflect on this marriage advice:

Let your love be stronger than your anger.
Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend than to break.
Look for the best in your beloved rather than the worst.
Confide in your partner and ask for help when you need it.
Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship.
Give your spouse the same courtesies and kindnesses you bestow on your friends.
Say "I love you" every day.
You may wish to add a reading or song here.

Vows:

____________ and ____________, I remind you that marriage is a precious gift; a lifelong dedication to love and a daily challenge to love one another more fully and more freely.

With this understanding, do you ____________, take ____________ to be your beloved wife?
Do you promise to be a tender, faithful husband?
Do you promise to love and cherish her, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, for better for worse, and keep yourself only unto her?

With this understanding, do you ____________, take ____________ to be your beloved husband?
Do you promise to be a tender, faithful wife?
Do you promise to love and cherish him, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, for better for worse, and keep yourself only unto him?


You may wish to add a reading or song here.

Rings:

____________ and ____________ have chosen rings as outward symbols of the commitment they make today.

From earliest times, the ring has been a symbol of wedded love. An unbroken and never-ending circle symbolizes a commitment to love that is also never ending.

____________, take the ring which you have selected, place it on ____________'s finger, and say to her these words.
This ring, a gift for you,

symbolizes my desire

that you be my wife

from this day forward.

____________, take the ring which you have selected, place it on ____________'s finger, and say to him these words.
This ring, a gift for you,

symbolizes my desire

that you be my wife

from this day forward.

Let these rings serve not as locks binding you together, but as keys, unlocking the secrets of your hearts for each other to know, and thus bringing you closer together forever.

Unity Candle (Optional)

This candle you are about to light is a candle of Marriage. Its fire is magical because it represents the light of two people in love.

This candle before you is a candle of Commitment because it takes two people working together to keep it aflame.

This candle is also a candle of Unity because both must come together, giving a spark of themselves, to create the new light.

Would you both now light the candle?

As you light this candle today, may the brightness of the flame shine throughout your lives. May it give you courage and reassurance in darkness. Warmth and safety in the cold. And strength and joy in your bodies, minds and spirits. May your union be forever wondrous.


Closing:


May the sun bring you new energy by day.
May the moon softly restore you by night.
May the rain wash away your worries.
And may you live the days of your lives in peace, love, and happiness.

Pronouncement:

____________ and ____________, having witnessed your vows for marriage with all who are assembled here, and by the authority vested in me, I announce with great joy that you are husband and wife.

Kiss:


You may seal your vows with a kiss.

Presentation:

Ladies and gentlemen, it is my honor to present to you, for the first time as husband and wife: ____________ and ____________ !

Ceremony H


From the American Association of Wedding Officiants

Family and friends, we welcome you today to witness the marriage of Groom and Bride. You have shared and contributed to their lives in the past, and by witnessing their marriage ceremony today, Groom and Bride ask you to share in their future.

Marriage is a promise, made in the hearts of two people who love each other, which takes a lifetime to fulfill. Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships. A husband and wife are each other's lover, teacher, listener, critic, and best friend. It is into this state that Groom and Bride wish to enter.

Who is here to stand in support of this union? (Parents/Family: "We do.")

If anyone present can show just cause why this couple may not be legally joined together, declare it now, or hereafter hold your peace.

Groom and Bride, I require and charge you both, in the presence of these witnesses, that if either of you know of any legal or moral impediment to this marriage, you do now reveal the same.

Groom, do you take Bride to be your wife? Will you love, honour, and cherish her, in good times and in bad, and do you promise to stay true to her as long as you both shall live? (I do.)

Bride, do you take Groom to be your husband? Will you love, honour, and cherish him, in good times and in bad, and do you promise to stay true to him as long as you both shall live? (I do.)

Groom and Bride, may you pledge to each other to be loving friends and partners in marriage. To talk and
to listen, to trust and appreciate one another; to respect and cherish each other's uniqueness, and to support, comfort, and strengthen each other through life's joys and sorrows. May you promise to share hopes, thoughts, and dreams as you build your lives together. May your lives be ever intertwined, your love keeping you together. May you build a home that is compassionate to all, full of respect and honour for others and each other. May your home be forever filled with peace, happiness, and love.

Groom and Bride, please face each other and hold hands. Groom, as you look at Bride, repeat these words after me:

I, Groom, take you Bride, to be my wife,

to have and to hold,

from this day forth,

to love, honor, and cherish,

to comfort and respect,

in sorrow or in joy,

in hardship or in plenty,

so long as we both shall live.

Bride, as you look at Groom, repeat these words after me:

I, Bride, take you Groom, to be my husband,


to have and to hold,

from this day forth,

to love, honor, and cherish,

to comfort and respect,

in sorrow or in joy,

in hardship or in plenty,

so long as we both shall live.


The ring is a symbol of unity into which your two lives are now joined in an unbroken circle; in which, wherever you go, you will return to one another. Groom, repeat after me:

Bride, I offer this ring

as a symbol

of my love and devotion.

Let it always be a reminder

of my vows to you.

Groom,
I offer this ring

as a symbol

of my love and devotion.

Let it always be a reminder

of my vows to you.


Bride and Groom, these two candles symbolize your separate lives, separate families and sets of friends. I ask that each of you take one of these candles and that together you light the center candle. These individual candles represent your lives before today. Lighting this center candle represents that your two lives are now joined to one light, and your two families and circles of friends are joined into one.  Bride and Groom, may your home be a haven of peace and your relationship be one of truth and understanding. May you enjoy length of days, fulfillment of hopes, and peace and content of mind as you, day by day, live and fulfill the terms of this covenant you have made with one another.

And now, in that you have exchanged vows, each to the other, and have declared the same by giving and receiving your rings, I pronounce that you are husband and wife. Groom, you may kiss your bride.

Ladies & Gentlemen, I am please to present to you, Mr & Mrs Groomslastname (or however you would like to be announced)!

Ceremony I


A CONTEMPORARY CEREMONY OF LASTING VOWS - Humanist style

PROCESSIONAL

Who declares their support for the union of this man and this woman?

WELCOME

We have gathered here for the marriage of ______________ and __________________.  On behalf of _____________ and ______________, we welcome all of you, and we warmly thank each of you for your presence here today.  We know some of you have journeyed long distances to be here.  Your love and support for _________ and __________ are very much appreciated. 
Your participation in this wedding is not passive, for you have played important roles in their lives.  You have been invited here out of their special relationships with you.  We ask for your continued love and support for them in the years to come.

ADDRESS

Marriage begins in the giving of words. You cannot join yourselves to one another without giving your word.  This must be an unconditional giving, for in joining yourselves to one another, you join yourselves to the unknown.

Marriage is one of the most important obligations that two people can commit to in their lifetime. A successful  marriage is dependent upon many factors, but the first prerequisite is a strong bond of friendship and respect for one another.  Your love for each other will grow with each passing day, yet it is your willingness to accept each other's strengths and weaknesses, with understanding and respect, that is the true foundation of a healthy marriage.

Marriage is the closest relationship that exists between two people.  When a man and a woman decide to join together in marriage, they should do so with a full realization of its’ responsibilities.  Marriage is a serious commitment.  When a man and a woman come together to make a public confession of their love and devotion, pronouncing vows and pledging their lives to each other, it is a threefold union.  They are joined together spiritually, legally and physically.  While marriage is a big commitment, it is also cause for a joyous celebration.  You are about to take a new step forward into life.  It is my hope that your joy in each other and in yourselves increases with each passing day.

Are you fully prepared to meet these obligations?
(Wait for a response)

COMMUNITY DECLARATION

As a community, we gather together in the midst of this celebration to be with this man and woman and support them during their days together as husband and wife.  Please join me in meditation as I read our wishes for Jennifer and Dean:  May their marriage be filled with faith and trust.  May they always live with each other in peace and harmony.  May they bear one another's weaknesses and grow from each other's strengths.  May they forgive one another's failings.  May their marriage have patience, kindness, cheerfulness, and selflessness.  May they continue to grow together, and to strengthen their love throughout their lives.  May it be so.

CONSECRATION

You have always had dreams of the potential of tomorrow, believing that anything was possible.  As you live in this world and make a difference in it, your beloved will accompany you.  Having found each other, you have made a decision that there is no moment in your lives more profoundly significant than this one, the moment you offer yourselves to become husband and wife.  May you share with each other, from this day on, the unending joy of growth and discovery.

For many years to come you will remember this day; yet, beyond the fragrant flowers, beyond the melodious music, beyond the expressions of joy and encouragement from family and friends, beyond albums filled with picturesque memories, may you celebrate through the years that which is most fundamental about your union.  You are joining because your love each other, you respect one another, and you will honor each other, and because you are committed to sharing equally in both the triumphs and trials of the days to come.

As you begin this new chapter in your lives, remember, all of your yesterdays have led you to today, and your love will lead you into tomorrow.

VOWS

_____(Groom/Bride), do you promise to love, respect and care for _____(Bride/Groom) for life, remaining faithful to your relationship, as it enters into new meanings and definitions?

RING CEREMONY

May I have the rings please?
Love freely given has no giver and no receiver.  You are each the giver and each the receiver.  The wedding ring is a symbol, in visible form, of the unbroken circle of you love, so that wherever you go, you may always return to your shared life together.  May these rings always call to mind the power of your love, as you go about your day.  May their circular form remind you that love given freely comes back around again and again.

_____,(Groom/Bride) take this ring and place it on _____(Bride/Groom) finger and repeat after me.
I,_____, (Groom/Bride) take you, _________, to be my wife/husband,

as a partner and companion,

to have and to hold,

to love and respect,

to honor and to cherish,

in joy and in sorrow,

from this day forward.

UNITY CANDLE

______ and ________ will now light their Unity candle.  The two side candles represent your lives before your wedding day, and the love and the care that nurtured you as you grew.  They represent all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will be.  The single candle in the middle is the Unity candle.  Although you join your lives in marriage by lighting the unity candle, allow the two side candles to continue to burn, as well.  For although your future is in your togetherness, you will continue to have your own strengths as individuals.  May the lighting of this candle of unity represent the oneness of this union and the eternal flame of love that burns within your two hearts.


A READING:  "THESE ARE THE HANDS"

Please present your hands palms up, so that your beloved may see the gift you are offering to each other. 
• These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you.
• These are the hands that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever. 
• These are the hands that will work along side yours as together you build your future. 
• These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other. 
• These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief try to overwhelm you. 
• These are hands that will wipe tears from your eyes countless times, both tears of joy and tears of sorrow. 
• These are the hands that will help hold your family together as one. 
• These are hands that will give you strength when you need it. 
• These are the hands that even when wrinkled with age, will still be reaching for the hand of your beloved, still giving the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

PRONOUNCEMENT

_____and_____, you have chosen each other, declared your love and purpose before family and friends, and have made your pledge of love to each other, symbolized by the giving and receiving of rings.  By virtue of the authority vested in me by the State of Colorado, I pronounce you “Husband and Wife”.  You may seal your union with a kiss!

ANNOUNCEMENT
 

Ladies and gentlemen, it is my honor and privilege to present to you for the very first time, Mr. and Mrs. _________________ and ________________ _______________!


Ceremony J


Written using information from The American Atheists Website

Gathering Words


We are here to celebrate the marriage of ______________ and ____________.  On behalf of _____________ and ______________, we welcome all of you, and we warmly thank each of you for your presence here today.  We know some of you have journeyed long distances to be here.  Your love and support for _________ and __________ are very much appreciated. 
 Your participation in this wedding is not passive, for you have played important roles in their lives.  You have been invited here out of their special relationships with you.  We ask for your continued love and support for them in the years to come.

Presentation of the Couple

Officiant: The union of ____________ and ____________  brings together two family traditions, two systems of roots, in the hope that a new family tree may become strong and fruitful. Theirs is a personal choice and decision for which they are primarily responsible. Yet their life will be enriched by the support of the families from which each comes. Will you (parents) encourage ____________ and ____________ in their relationship?

Response: We will.

Officiant: Do you celebrate with them the decision they have made to choose each other?

Response: We do.

Officiant: Will you continue to stand beside them, yet not between them?

Response: We will.

Declaration Of Intent

Officiant: ____________ and ________________, is it your intention to try to share with each other your joys and sorrows and all that the years might bring each another and to live as husband and wife?

Response: We do.

Reading


From "The Prophet" by Kahlil Gibran:
Love one another, but make not a bond of love;
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup, but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread, but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone.
Even as the strings of a lute are alone, though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping,
For only the hand of life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together;
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
Let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love.

Vows

Officiant: Do you. ___________, take ___________ as your husband?

_____________: I do.

Officiant: Do you, ____________, take ___________ as your wife?

_____________: I do

Reading


From Thomas Lovell Beddoes's "Song"
Bride:
How many times do I love thee, dear?
Tell me how many thoughts there be
In the atmosphere Of a new-fall'n year,
Whose white and sable hours appear
The latest flake of Eternity:
So many times do I love thee, dear.

Groom:
How many times do I love again?
Tell me how many beads there are In a silver chain Of evening rain,
Unravelled from the tumbling main,
And threading the eye of a yellow star:—
So many times do I love again.


Each person could read a poem separately. The couple also should consider writing their own poetry for the occasion. The results might not be Shakespearean, but they could not fail to be appropriate and special to the occasion.

The Exchange of Rings

Officiant:  Please repeat after me:
Bride: ____________, I give you this ring

that you may wear it

as a symbol of our union.

Groom: ____________, I give you this ring

that you may wear it

as a symbol of our union.

Acknowledgments

(Officiant to the couple) ___________ and _____________, let me express the feeling of all here in the words of an Indian marriage poem:
"Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter to the other.
Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there is no more loneliness.
Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before you.
Go now to your dwelling place, to enter into the days of your life together.
And may your days be good, and long upon the earth."

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Ceremony K


Dr. Madalyn O'Hair, founder of American Atheists, was a licensed marriage officiant in the state of Texas. We are reproducing several of the ceremonies at which she officiated in the past.

Officiant: _________ and _________ wish to welcome all of you today. They have chosen to publicly proclaim that they are forming a partnership, and they have chosen that you, their family and friends, be here to celebrate what has already become a reality within and between them. In doing so, they allow us to participate in the celebration of what they have discovered and nurtured together. Marriage signifies an intertwining together of two individual lives. And yet with this relationship comes a freedom in which each partner becomes the enabler of the other.

With mutual growth and trust they are better able to explore life's realities, to form a richer future. The encouragement to grow and develop their own strengths brings with it an eagerness to share new discoveries and lends to both _________ and ________ a continuing enthusiasm for living. Thus each partner enables the other to grow, discover, and enjoy the freedom that is offered, and to reap the rewards of sharing. They believe, however, that their partnership affects all of you, that they have more to give you as partners than they did as individuals. They are marrying each other with the firm belief that it will be for life. They are overflowing with happiness today; be happy with them.

[Flute Solo]

_________: ____________, I offer myself to you, to be your husband. Let the goals of our life together be not my goals alone, not yours alone, but ours. May our love bring forth and fulfill the unique person in each of us and our strength as a couple.


[Lifts Bride's veil]
__________:  ___________, I give you all that I am and all that I will become. Today, I offer you my tomorrows, that we may live our goals and dreams together. I love what I know of you, and trust what I have yet to learn. I respect you and have faith that our love will endure.

________: I, __________, take you,____________, as I know and love you. I have faith in your love for me and I, too, trust what I have yet to learn about you. I want you with me for all the days of my life, to share whatever life may bring us.

___________: I accept and cherish your vow, and in return I promise you my love and trust. And though life may be unsettling, I will stay with you and care for you through all seasons.

Officiant: Let there be confidence, honesty, and freedom between you. Cultivate and cherish that sentiment of love which depends mainly upon the subtler and lesser things of daily and hourly experience. May your life together express a growing unity. Let your rings be a symbol of the unbroken circle of your love.


[Best man and matron of honor give rings]
____________: I give you this ring as a promise of my faithfulness and as a reminder of my love.

__________: We will wear them as a sign of our love and commitment to each other.

Officiant: It will be the joy of each to promote the joy of each other, and that will not only bind, but blend your lives together. Insomuch as __________ and ____________ have promised themselves to each other in this affirmation of their love and commitment and the dedication which grows out of it, I pronounce them husband and wife.

[The kiss]

Officiant: It is my honor and privilege to introduce to you for the very first time, Mr. and Mrs. ________ ___________.

[Recessional]


Ceremony L


Officiant: We are here to celebrate the marriage of ________________ and _________________.

Your desire is to take each other as husband and wife. Will you please make your declaration to your friends and relatives here assembled this evening to witness your act and join in your happiness?

[The groom responds]

[The bride responds]

Officiant: Do you wish to exchange tokens of your promised fidelity?

[The groom responds]

[The bride responds]

[The bride and groom exchange rings and vows]

Officiant: You have declared together in wedlock and have given and received rings in token of your fidelity.

With the power vested in me by the state of ___________________, I now pronounce you to be husband and wife, _____________ and ______________ ________________.

[The bride and groom embrace.]

[The officiant kisses the bride on the cheek, shakes hands with the groom, and congratulates him.]


Ceremony M


[Bride, groom, and officiant enter and face the guests]

Reader:

This is the day of days
Not one that merely comes along,
Not just another day
to taste and throw away,
But one that wakens into song
and makes a growing, bright
Harmonious play of light.

This is a day of praise —
a day to raise
your hearts for all the countless ways
you have of caring
of sharing every measure of delight . . .
Knowing
The glowing pleasure that you bring to living —

This is your special day —
Today was made for you,
Every color, every hue
Should proudly be arrayed for you.

This is a day that brims with love,
With all the many meanings of
The embracing touch,
The warm response, the tone that means so much
So rich, so reassuring,
Endearing and enduring.

Here is a day that sings
With promise of a thousand things
To come — and stay

This is your day!
Officiant: Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence. Yet most of us are unable to develop our capacities for love on the only level that really counts — a love that is compounded of maturity, self-knowledge, and courage. Learning to love, like other arts, demands practice and concentration. Mature love is union under the condition of preserving one's integrity. In love, the paradox occurs that two beings become one, and yet remain two.

The affirmation of one's own life, happiness, growth, and freedom is rooted in one's capacity to love. Genuine love is an expression of productiveness and implies care, respect, responsibility, and knowledge.

We are here to celebrate the marriage of ______________ and _____________.

Groom: I, ______________ want you, ______________, to be my wife,
to accept my love
as I accept yours,
and to face the future
together always.

Bride: I, ______________, want you, _______________, to be my husband,
to face the future with,
always accepting my love
as I accept yours.

Groom: I give you this ring
as a promise of my faithfulness
and as a reminder of my love.

Bride: I give you this ring
as a promise of my faithfulness
and as a reminder of my love.

[Vocalist sings "Country Road"]

Officiant: You have declared together in wedlock and have given and received rings in token of your fidelity.

With the power vested in me by the state of ______________, I now pronounce you to be husband and wife, ____________ and _______________ _________________.

[Bride and groom kiss]

Ceremony N
Olde Tyme Vows

Adapted by Pastor Dave Ptasnik of the Humanist Assembly of Washington State from the 1871 Book of Common Prayer.

DEARLY beloved, we are gathered together here in the face of this company, to join together this Man and this Woman in Matrimony ; which is commended to be honourable among all men and therefore is not by any to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly ; but reverently, discreetly, advisedly, and soberly.

Into this estate these two persons present come now to be joined. If any man can show just cause, why they may not lawfully be joined together, let him now speak, or else hereafter forever hold his peace.

I REQUIRE and charge you both, as ye will answer at the dreadful day of judgment when the secrets of all hearts shall be disclosed, that if either of you know any impediment why ye may not be lawfully joined together in Matrimony, ye do now confess it. For be ye well assured, that if any persons are joined together otherwise that their marriage is not lawful.

(Groom’s Name) WILT thou have this Woman to thy wedded wife, to live together after Humankind’s custom in the solemn estate of Matrimony? Wilt thou love her, comfort her, honour, and keep her in sickness and in health ; and, forsaking all others, keep thee only unto her, so long as ye both shall live ?

The Man shall answer,
I will.

(Bride’s Name) WILT thou have this Man to thy wedded husband, to live together after Humankind’s custom in the solemn estate of Matrimony? Wilt thou obey him, and serve him, love, honour, and keep him in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, keep thee only unto him, so long as ye both shall live ?

The Woman shall answer,
I will.

Who giveth this Woman to be married to this Man ?

[Then shall they give their troth to each other in this manner. The Minister, receiving the Woman at her father’s or friend’s hands, shall cause the Man with his right hand to take the Woman by her right hand, and to say after him as followeth.]

I (Groom’s name) take thee (Bride’s name) to my wedded wife,
to have and to hold from this day forward,
for better for worse, for richer
for poorer, in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish,
till death us do part,
and thereto I plight thee my troth.

[Then shall they loose their hands ; and the Woman with her right hand taking the Man by his right hand, shall likewise say after the Minister :]

I (Bride’s Name) take thee (Groom’s Name) to my wedded husband,
to have and to hold, from this day forward,
for better for worse, for
richer for poorer, in sickness and in health,
to love, cherish, and obey,
till death us do part,
and thereto I give thee my troth.

[Then shall they again loose their hands and the Man shall give unto the Woman a Ring. And the Minister taking the Ring shall deliver it unto the Man, to put it upon the fourth finger of the Woman’s left hand. And the Man holding the Ring there, and taught by the Minister, shall say,]

WITH this Ring I thee wed,
and with all my worldly goods
I thee endow :

[Then the Man, leaving the Ring upon the fourth finger of the Woman’s left hand, the Minister shall say,]

Let us join together and entreat this couple -
To work together and through their labours earn their daily bread.  To avoid trespassing against others each other.  And forgive others our trespass against them. To turn away from temptation, and to stand against evil. To perform and keep the vow and covenant betwixt them made, (whereof this Ring given and received is a token and pledge,) and may ever remain in perfect love and peace together, and live according to the laws of man and nature.

[Then shall the Minister join their right hands together, and say,]

Those whom this company hath joined together let no man put asunder.  As much as (Groom’s name) and (Bride’s name) have consented together in wedlock, and have witnessed the same before this company, and thereto have given and pledged their troth, each to the other, and have declared the same by giving and receiving a Ring, and by joining hands ; by the power invested in me I pronounce that they are Man and Wife.




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